A divorce is a tumultuous event in the life of anyone who has to go through it, and the effects of a divorce resonate throughout every divorcing couples’ lives. This includes their work lives. If you are going through a divorce, you likely recognize that it is having a significant effect in many areas of your life, but you may not recognize just how much the effects can creep into your performance at work. There are, however, some things you can do to help mitigate the negative consequences that divorce can have on your job and to keep your career moving forward. If you are facing a divorce, an experienced Houston divorce lawyer can help.
Your Life and Your Job
The fact is that your job plays a significant role in your life, and the two cannot be completely separated from one another – nor would you want them to be. Just as your job reverberates throughout other parts of your life, so too will your divorce. There is no need to attempt to over-compartmentalize your life, but proceed with caution. Divorce tends to dredge up emotions that aren’t necessarily appropriate on the job, but allowing yourself a bit of time and space each day to face these difficult emotions can help. Be as kind with yourself as you would be with a coworker going through a difficult situation, and you’ll be well on your way to mastering a healthy work/divorce balance.
Sharing News of Your Divorce with Your Boss
You’re in the process of obtaining a divorce, and you may be confused about how much to share with your boss. Your divorce will almost certainly affect your work in one way or another:
- You may be more emotional than you normally are.
- You will probably have more outside appointments that you need to attend.
- You will need to discuss upcoming changes with Human Resources, including changing your name (if applicable), making changes to your health and life insurance policies, and more.
- Your ability to concentrate and focus may be affected.
In other words, your workplace is going to notice that something has changed with you, and talking to your boss openly about the situation can go a long way toward damage control.
Strategizing with Your Supervisor
Your boss and/or supervisor may even have some on-the-job ideas for helping you make it through this difficult time in your life. Often, work provides us with a focus that can lift us outside of our non-work selves. If your boss is amenable, strategize with him or her about your best path forward. Depending upon the kind of work you do, there might be tweaks that you can make together that will allow you a bit more personal space to comfortably and professionally handle both your divorce and your career.
Sharing News of Your Divorce with Your Coworkers
Sharing news of your divorce with your boss is an important step. Sharing the same information with your coworkers may be a different story. You do not want your personal life to become fodder for workplace gossip, so it’s important to carefully weigh your options.
Sharing your unfortunate news with a few coworkers whom you trust and whom you are comfortable talking to can broaden your support system and allow you an escape valve on the job. Oversharing, however, is probably not in your best interests. Maintaining your professionalism is critical, but balancing this with the support of carefully selected work friends can also help. Letting your office know that you are going through a difficult divorce but demonstrating that you aren’t going to be dishing about the details can help set the right tone.
The Emotional Fallout of a Divorce
Every divorce is unique unto itself, and it’s nearly impossible to predict how yours will affect you in the long run – or even from day to day. One given, however, is that you will experience some emotional fallout:
- A diminished ability to concentrate
- An increased level of distraction
- Difficulty meeting important deadlines
- Difficulty with following through
- Changes in mood and personality
Accepting the inevitability of experiencing some setbacks at work that are predicated on the emotional fallout of your divorce can help you to find coping strategies and to minimize the negative effects.
Most people are very understanding when it comes to coworkers who are experiencing hardships and will be more than willing to cut you the extra bit of slack you may need. Graciously accepting your coworkers’ compassion may strike you as difficult, but remember that you would almost certainly do the same for them under similar circumstances. Remember, too, that you will get through this complicated stage of your life and will return to being your best self on the job.
The Logistics of Divorce
In addition to the emotional effects of divorce, there are logistical effects to take into consideration. Many divorces necessitate moving one’s residence. Further, many divorcing parents find that they spend a lot more time driving their kids back and forth in accordance with the child custody arrangements. A move presents difficulties of its own, and if it increases your commute, it also cuts into the time you have available to devote to work and to other important pursuits. The logistics of learning to live with what may seem like an artificial parenting schedule and/or with a move related to your divorce should not be underestimated. A divorce is bound to consume a considerable amount of your time, and taking this into consideration in relation to your job will help.
If You Are Divorcing, You Need an Experienced Houston Divorce Lawyer on Your Side
The dedicated legal team at the Rudisel Law Firm, P.C. in Houston has the experience and knowledge to skillfully guide your case toward its most positive resolution. Having a trustworthy divorce attorney on your side will help you mitigate the effects your divorce has on your job and other important aspects of your life while helping you find your best path forward. For a free consultation, please don’t hesitate to contact or call us at 713-781-7775 today.