Your Divorce and Social Media
If you are going through a divorce in Texas, you are going through a lot, and you almost certainly need a way to deal with all the emotional upheaval you’re experiencing. This is a given, but choose your emotional outlets wisely. Posts to social media are being used as evidence more and more often in Texas courts – nearly always to the detriment of the person posting. If you are going through a divorce, you need a shoulder – or two – to cry on, but be sure to turn to loved ones and trusted friends who always have your best interests at heart. Finally, if you are facing the divorce process in Texas, you need the professional legal counsel of an experienced Houston divorce lawyer.
Your Social Media Accounts
Most of us enjoy the immediacy of social media. It’s a great way to keep everyone you know – and then some – in the know about what you are thinking, feeling, and doing. The timbre of social media, however, changes when you are going through a divorce – especially if the divorce becomes acrimonious, which many do. It’s important to keep in mind that the degrees of separation that one experiences in private conversations are nearly obliterated in the arena of social media. Almost anything you post can come back to haunt you.
Think about It, Don’t hurt your Divorce
Even if you played fast and loose with your social media accounts before you were considering divorce, it’s imperative that you change your attitude once divorce becomes a real possibility. Your posts are a snapshot of who you are, and if your divorcing spouse can use them to paint an unflattering picture of you for the court, he or she may be inclined to do so. Even if you think better of your social media offering and delete it within seconds, it’s impossible to say how many screenshots are out there. If you’re divorcing, you are on an emotional journey, and there’s no reason to make that journey more difficult by expecting yourself to be perfect. Allow yourself the time and space you need to grieve and process the end of your marriage and remember that you’ll find much greater solace when you turn to people whom you trust for support – rather than turning to social media.
What Not to Post During a Divorce
The two most contentious components of any contested divorce in Texas are naturally child custody and visitation arrangements and the division of marital property, and your posts could speak volumes without you even being aware. Before you hit send – every single time – consider whether you would want the judge in your case to read or see the content, because there is every chance that your judge may. As a matter of course, there are certain things that you should never post on Facebook, Instagram, Twitter Snapchat, LinkedIn, or anywhere else:
Do not over-post
Over-sharing – even if the content is innocuous – can have an adverse effect on the outcome of your case. If nothing else, it’s a signal that your divorce isn’t consuming your life. Most people are consumed by the divorce process, and the over-posting of pithy remarks and memes can show a general lack of seriousness. It’s important to remember that your divorcing spouse is also likely in a dark place, and your perceived lack of concern could be the push that he or she needs to take things in a more contentious direction.
Do not rant or vent about your divorce on social media
Posting bitter diatribes on Facebook is not the way to go. In fact, leave your divorce out of your posts altogether. No matter how good it might feel in the moment to get things off your chest, the consequences are unpredictable and are very likely to boomerang on you.
Do not post about your new relationship
If you have already begun to date or are in a new relationship, this is no time to share the happy news with the world at large. Pictures tell compelling stories, so forego posting pictures of you as a couple – this also applies to pictures that your friends may be tempted to post. Flaunting a new relationship can fuel the flames of acrimony and, in so doing, protract the divorce process. It’s important to keep in mind that, while most Texas divorces are no fault, some divorces are predicated on adultery. Until you are legally divorced, a new romantic relationship is classified as adultery in a Texas divorce.
Do not flaunt your spending
Not flaunting your spending while you are going through a divorce should go without saying, but it’s a mistake that many divorcing people make. In fact, now is not the time to be spending in a way that you’d be tempted to flaunt. You’re going through a divorce, and your finances are going to be scrutinized. Keep your spending on the up and up. If you do need to make a large purchase, it’s a good idea to discuss the matter with your experienced Houston divorce attorney beforehand.
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Do not comment about your divorce online
Don’t blog, write, or comment about your divorce online. Divorce is a private matter, and sharing your written narrative about yours could hurt your children and even other loved ones. Your primary concern is naturally your children’s well-being, and the only people hurting more than you and your divorcing spouse are your children. Journaling about your divorce journey can help, but sharing your words online is a bad idea.
If You Are Going through a Divorce, You Need an Experienced Houston Divorce Lawyer
While no one expects you to be perfect when traversing the difficult path toward divorce, your social media exposure can directly affect the outcome of your case. The dedicated divorce attorneys at the Rudisel Law Firm, P.C., in Houston, are here to help. We have the experience, compassion, and knowledge to help you avoid common divorce pitfalls, including oversharing on social media. Our legal team is committed to helping you obtain the best possible resolution of your case. To schedule a free consultation, please contact or call us at 713-781-7775 today.