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Life after divorce in Houston, TX

Life After Divorce in Texas

Tying Up Loose Ends after a Texas Divorce

Divorce in Texas can be hard, but once you’ve made it to the other side and your divorce is final, there are some steps you can take that will help you move into your post-divorce future with confidence. Divorce has a way of making people feel like they’re not quite walking on solid ground. The best path forward, however, is one step at a time. Naturally, you are very glad to have made it through the difficult process that is divorce, but tying up all the loose ends that come afterward is critical to your ability to continue to move smoothly into your new future.

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Tax Implications and Divorce

Once you have your final divorce decree, it’s very likely that your tax status will change, and it’s important to let the HR department at your place of employment know about this change. Fill out your new tax documents carefully because you want them to accurately reflect your newly single status and any tax exemptions you’ll be claiming. Who will be able to claim the children as exemptions after divorce is an essential component of every divorce involving children. Work closely with your experienced Houston divorce attorney so that you understand this issue and how it will affect your financial future.

Changing Your Last Name

Many women change their last names when they get married, and many women change their last names back to their maiden names after divorce. Texas law allows the judge can grant you this name change during your divorce, but granting such a change does not change your name on important documents, including government records. If you are in this particular situation, you probably have more official name-change maneuvers to make than you realize:

  • Changing your name on official documents at work, including your 401(k) and health insurance plan
  • Having a new Social Security card, driver’s license, and passport issued with your newly changed name
  • Changing your name on insurance policies and other important financial documents
  • Changing your name on your mortgage, credit cards, and other financial tools

Failing to have your name changed in a timely manner on these important documents can create significant difficulties that you probably haven’t even considered. Take the time to carefully go through the process of consistently changing your name across all of these categories, and you’ll make it that much easier to move forward post-divorce.

Your Mortgage

If your ex is staying in your marital home and is taking over the mortgage, make sure to have your name removed from that mortgage (and vice versa, if you are taking over the mortgage). If your name remains on a mortgage, you remain responsible – even if you no longer have anything to do with the home. This may seem like obvious advice, but not all divorced couples get this detail taken care of as quickly as they should, and not doing so can negatively affect your financial future.

Understand Your Divorce Decree

When you’re going through a divorce, your life is off kilter, and that’s to be expected. Your divorce decree, however, lays the foundation for how you are intended to move forward related to the division of your marital assets, the payment of child support, the payment of spousal maintenance (where appropriate), and more. Make sure that you understand what your responsibilities are so that you will be able to adhere to them and will know what to expect regarding your ex’s responsibilities. Your experienced divorce attorney should carefully go over your divorce decree with you so that you’ll better understand you and your ex’s respective responsibilities. Knowing what to expect can help ease the anxiety that comes with transitioning from being part of a married couple to living as a single person. In addition, understanding your ex’s responsibilities will help you better recognize if he or she ever becomes non-compliant – and when to seek a legal remedy as a result.

Exchanging of Property

If your divorce involves exchanging property between you and your newly divorced spouse, you will need to schedule and make the hand-off. Sometimes, this property is sentimental in value, and sometimes it has actual monetary value (or a combination of both), but part of moving forward after divorce is taking care of these details. Schedule a time with your ex to make the exchange, and do your level best to keep things as civil as possible. If your divorce was simply too acrimonious for you to feel comfortable meeting and exchanging property in person, choose a spot whereby you can make the exchange by dropping the items with a neutral third party. Everyone understands that divorce is hard, and it shouldn’t be difficult to find someone who is willing to help.

Your Divorce

Every divorce is unique to its own set of circumstances, and as such, it’s extremely important that you understand what your divorce decree entails. While you probably won’t be needing your experienced Houston divorce attorney’s skills for much longer, take the time to go over the ins-and-outs of your divorce decree with him or her. Further, make sure that you understand the implications for your upcoming post-divorce life. Having this information will arm you with the tools you need to move forward with confidence and security. Your dedicated divorce attorney is there to help.

If You Are Facing an Impending Divorce, Consult with an Experienced Houston Divorce Attorney Today

The divorce process is never easy, but having an empathetic and knowledgeable divorce lawyer certainly helps. The right attorney will work with you every step of the way – from your initial consultation until you are ready to spread your wings and move forward into your new life, post-divorce. The dedicated divorce lawyers at the Rudisel Law Firm, P.C., in Houston, are here for you. Our experienced legal team has the skill, empathy, and determination to aggressively advocate for your rights throughout the divorce process. We are here to help, so please contact or call us at 713-781-7775 for more information today.

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Coping with your Ex: Texas Divorce

Divorce 101: Coping with Your Ex During a Divorce

When you’re going through a Texas divorce, even making it through the day might feel like a small victory. Once you’re on the other side of that divorce, you’re ready to take your first tentative steps on your own. The fact remains, however, that if you have children or a shared social circle, you now have an ex-spouse whom you’ll very likely have to deal with on at least a semi-regular basis. Unfortunately, exes don’t come with instruction manuals, so it’s a good idea to have a game plane for how best to proceed. In general, tread lightly, but be prepared to protect your best interests when necessary.

Keep Face-to-Face Communications to a Minimum

Every divorce is unique, and while some couples divorce amicably and carry on with a lively friendship post-divorce, this is the rare exception rather than the rule. If your divorce is less of a fairy tale and more like real-life, proceed with caution. If you share children, you’re going to need to confab with your ex, so set some personal ground rules.

As time goes by, you and your ex will likely find that communicating with each other will become more and more comfortable, but until you find this happy place, your interactions are likely to be fraught with emotion. In the early days, which sometimes seem to go on indefinitely, it’s usually a good idea to limit your communications to those that are strictly necessary and to conduct them through the least personal channels possible. If an email or text will suffice, stick to that. When it’s more time sensitive or complicated, make the call. Limiting face-to-face interactions to picking up and dropping off the kids can save you a lot of heartache in the long run.

When It Comes to Your Kids, Proceed with Caution

In general, it’s best not to include your children in your chain of communication with your ex. First of all, you don’t want your children to feel like they’re being used as a protective barrier between the two of you – or to feel like they should harbor allegiances (one way or the other).

Sometimes, however, it’s useful – and it makes sense – for your children to negotiate with your ex on their own behalves. There’s a lot of gray area on this one. Families are messy, and children are resilient. There are no hard and fast rules here. But if you have something you need to discuss with your ex, don’t finagle it through your children; go directly to the source.

Post-Divorce Emotional Support

If there’s ever a time that you’re going to need emotional support, it’s after a divorce. Look to your family members and trusted friends whom you know you can count on. That’s what friends and family are for; there are also divorce support groups that can be especially beneficial. Remember, too, that your Houston divorce attorney is there to answer your logistical questions and doesn’t expect you to become a divorce expert overnight.

What you don’t want to do is look to your ex for the emotional support you need. While it’s natural to feel the tug of the familiar – after all you were a team throughout your marriage – it’s rarely a good idea to succumb to that inclination. Foster a community in which you and the other members support each other, and you’ll find yourself back on the road to emotional strength and stability.

Get the Support You Need so You Can Be There for Your Kids

It’s vital that you get the support you need so you can be there for your children. As difficult as divorce is on you, it’s even more harrowing – and confusing – for your kids. If you aren’t taking care of your own emotional needs, you’ll be less capable of supporting your kids during these trying times. And cut yourself some slack, no one is looking for perfection here – do the best you can for both yourself and your kids.

Finally, it goes without saying that you should never turn to your children for emotional support. When times get tough, call a friend or family member.

Court-Awarded Financial Support

If the court has awarded you child support or spousal maintenance, that is money that is due you – it is not a gift and it in no way leaves you obligated to your ex (the payor). If your ex intimates that the payments he or she makes to you according to your divorce settlement give him or her leverage, your ex is mistaken. Don’t be bullied or intimidated into abdicating your rights and responsibilities as spelled out in your divorce settlement. If your court-ordered payments aren’t forthcoming, it’s time to contact your Houston family law attorney. Don’t wait for things to fix themselves; they rarely do. Be proactive, and allow your experienced divorce attorney to outline your options.

Maintaining Friendships with Your Ex’s Family Members

You’ve no doubt heard the saying that blood is thicker than water, and divorce is a prime example. No matter how close you and your ex’s family are, it’s usually a good idea to give them some breathing space after the divorce. If nothing else, they don’t want to give the appearance of not fully supporting their own son/daughter/brother/sister. Give them the time and space they need to heal, and you very well may find your way back to a satisfying and rewarding relationship with your ex’s family – especially when children are involved.

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Divorce Isn’t a Walk in the Park; You Need a Dedicated Houston Divorce Attorney

If you will have to interact with your ex in the future, you should be sure to protect your rights during your divorce. A divorce settlement or decree that is equitable goes a long way in minimizing future conflict. The dedicated legal team at the Rudisel Law Firm, P.C., in Houston, focuses exclusively on divorce and family law, and we’re here for you every step of the way. For a free initial consultation, please contact or call us at 713-781-7775 today.